The biggest secret women in leadership keep

When many of us were children, we are taught to love everyone, to share, and to assume that everyone will “get a trophy” for their efforts in their fragile, young lives…

But as we grow up, we LEARN.  We come to know better–and this wisdom comes for women in the form of a secret that we often tell ourselves.  And it is this:

In the world of work, life, and business, there is only ONE woman that can be promoted.

Only one that can be the star of an organization, or one that can have ultimate influence along with our male counterparts, and the rest, well…we have to fall in line.  But I’ve been reading some surprising parts of scripture that would suggest differently.  Matthew 6:22 says, “22The eye is the lamp of the body. If your vision is clear, your whole body will be full of light. But if your vision is poor, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light within you is darkness, how great is that darkness!”

The way we choose to SEE–what we choose to look at in our world is so important.  Will our eye be attracted to the places where light exposes and converts, or allow ourselves to create a prison of our own choosing in a place of dim bitterness?  Rob Bell, a Christian author, has done some work around this text that I’ve found fascinating.  He suggests that Jesus, in his lesson on vision to those around him was really talking about his disciples view about money and forgiving debts.  Every seventh year the faithful were called to forgive all debts on their service–according to laws of Sabbath and Jubliee, setting all those free from that which binds them.  So Jesus suggests that the people, even as the day comes close where the needy would ask for help and the helper knew he or she would not be repaid, He encourages us to see with eyes of light, giving what is asked, and trusting that there will ALWAYS be enough to go around, and more.

Have you ever had a friend in your field call or come to you and exclaim with joy and excitement about an opportunity that has come their way?  If you’re really honest there has at least been ONE PERSON or ONE TIME where as you expressed good wishes to them, you thought, “What about me?  Where’s my opportunity?  They choose HIM/HER over ME?  Will there be anything left for me down the line?  When is my turn? I have something to offer–will I ever get my chance?”  or maybe this experience sent you in a downward spiral of making yourself small, saying, “well, this just confirms that I’m not worth it.”

I have gone through these dark nights of the soul waiting to “get my start,” as I trust many of you haveGod doesn’t have a certain amount of good things that God has the will or power to dole out to God’s favorites and leave the rest of us to fend for ourselves (though that’s often the narrative that we subconsciously tell ourselves–and one we need to deconstruct quickly when recognized).  But lately, I have been reminded of a different way of thinking:  God’s Spirit is generative, never-ending, and continual.

So when a friend gets their next big break, don’t allow yourself to believe the “secret” that’s been spreading and descend into the place of bitterness.  Don’t be enslaved by your fear of the future.  Treat it as a sign of God’s possibility–that if it can happen for her, it can also happen for you…and truly, for all of us.

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